Interview with the Hopeless Love Addict/Cynic [Part 1]
I sat down earlier today to talk to a close friend. He was overanalysing his relationship, but it was an interesting insight into the different views people can have on one relationship. He stressed that these concerns weren't to say that he wasn't happy, on the contrary he is extremely happy. He just has concerns to be vented before he can move on to take the next step.
What is he worried about? He has a boyfriend who loves him, and he's happy with himself - relatively. He thinks his only concern is with how his boyfriend feels. How can he know that his boyfriend's love is genuine. My friend can't say that love isn't shown, exactly the opposite, he just needs to know that his 'love' is different. Perhaps it's his insane and unjustified jealousy of all the other people who have shared experiences with and loved/love his boyfriend. Does everyone in relationships feel this way about their partners ex's? My friend thinks he himself is being needy. His boyfriend has loved so many before and so many have loved him. My friend doubts his level of self-confidence (which is usually high) and assurance and therefore believing that his love is any different. My friend stopped the free flowing conversation and stressed how much he believes that his partner loves him so incredibly much and that feeling of love is mutual. He's just afraid and doesn't want to be hurt. Especially because he would never want to lose someone who means to much to him.
OnAir with BlackPunk: Kelly Clarkson - Because Of You / Mariah Carey -The Roof
What is he worried about? He has a boyfriend who loves him, and he's happy with himself - relatively. He thinks his only concern is with how his boyfriend feels. How can he know that his boyfriend's love is genuine. My friend can't say that love isn't shown, exactly the opposite, he just needs to know that his 'love' is different. Perhaps it's his insane and unjustified jealousy of all the other people who have shared experiences with and loved/love his boyfriend. Does everyone in relationships feel this way about their partners ex's? My friend thinks he himself is being needy. His boyfriend has loved so many before and so many have loved him. My friend doubts his level of self-confidence (which is usually high) and assurance and therefore believing that his love is any different. My friend stopped the free flowing conversation and stressed how much he believes that his partner loves him so incredibly much and that feeling of love is mutual. He's just afraid and doesn't want to be hurt. Especially because he would never want to lose someone who means to much to him.
OnAir with BlackPunk: Kelly Clarkson - Because Of You / Mariah Carey -The Roof
posted by Christopher at
9:54 PM
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"His boyfriend has loved so many before and so many have loved him."Says who? Your friend? Or his boyfriend? If the question is in regards to the substance of one's love... who can really say if all of your friend's ex-partners really loved him.... not to mention if he loved them.
It's not easy to find love. Most of us have to learn lessons in love the hard way, and sometimes we choose to learn them over and over again.... resulting in a number of partners. No one, except for the two individuals in that particular relationship can define the love between them.
So how can your friend know if his partner's love is so...
Tell him, it's in his kiss.
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Anonymous, at Thursday, March 10, 2005 5:34:00 PM
Yeah, share the fun, and love as many as we can.
We are here to test out what life can offer. The life may be cut short, but hey, the consolation is that we have a lot of fun.
Tell you friend to jump into it. Nothing is like self-experimenting.
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Anonymous, at Friday, March 11, 2005 11:55:00 PM
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